Our Lord in his last saying “Father, into thy hands I commend my spirit” speaks of the focal point of marriage. The vows made in marriage are the complete giving over of oneself to the other in complete trust and faithfulness. Without free consent there is no marriage. Marriage requires the free giving of the spouses to each other in the way they are; the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Christ himself, hanging on the cross, battered and beaten gives His entire self-up to the Father. A marriage is not truly a marriage if the couples do not give completely of themselves to each other. This complete gift of self, including one’s faults and weaknesses, can certainly be scary. However, only when a spouse gives himself / herself totally over to his / her spouse can the two truly be united as one. If one has accepted and integrated the previous teachings of Christ from the cross concerning marriage this total self-gift to the spouse will follow naturally.
Through The Cross To Light 